Tuesday, September 09, 2008

ten tips for life

Women love hints, tips and helps that make life go a little bit better. Life's too short to get caught up in what isn't necessary, so here's my Ten Tips for Life.

Tip # 1 - Learn to listen.
Learn how to give the best gift in the whole world to another person and in that – become a better person for it. Listening, simply reflecting what others say, helps them tap into the counsels of their own heart ~ ones that they may not be aware of. When a person is heard, they discover what is there, take ownership of their thoughts and feelings, and even discover the solutions to change.

Tip # 2 - Don't mind read.
We often assume that we know what the other person is thinking. When Michael and I "mind read" we will generally end up in an unnecessary conflict and the issue never becomes the issue.

Tip # 3 - If you're NOT married - stop chasing after a potential husband.
God intended men to be pursuers and when a woman imitates - and should she be "successful" at "conquering" she'll most likely end up with a passive sissy. (Oh, am I tramping on toes?)

Tip # 4 - Take a beauty pause and go build a bridge.
What is a beauty pause? Beauty starts in the feminine soul ~ in the spirit of a woman. When her spirit is refreshed and restored, her countenance shines with beauty and the attitude of her heart graces her to sail through any storm.

What would it feel like to have the arms of God around you at this very moment? What would it feel like to hear His gentle voice say, “I love you My darling one”?

The spirit was meant for fellowship with the One who created it. Restoring Beauty creates arenas for the spirit to be refreshed through Beauty Pauses. One example is as simple as sitting on your porch in the dark silence of night and simply listening.

Tip # 5 - Give yourself permission to grieve over losses of the past.
Living life like a race detours the necessary soul work required to allow grief to do its perfect work to heal a wound. Ingrid Trobish once wrote, “Only the one who is able to hurt is also allowed to heal.” That’s true isn’t it?

Only when a wound is made can a scar grow flesh back together. Those hurts that have been grieved well heal the best.

Tip # 6 - Stop trying to change the other person.
We spend way to much emotional energy (wasted energy) thinking we can change the other person. The only one we can change is our self. We generally try to change someone else because we haven't dealt with our anger or unrealistic expectations.

Tip # 7 - Deal with offenses. Stop gossiping.
We often think we've deal with an offense, but why is it we keep avoiding the person who has offended us? Do you have “undone” offenses that need to be addressed? Is there bitterness and resentment from past relationships that are hindering present ones? Is there someone you need to go to so that you can get right what has been wronged? Are there offenses needing to be overlooked? If you are being convicted about “undone” relationships, email me and I'll send you a simple guide on How to Deal with Offenses.

Tip # 8 - Be on purpose as to how you spend your time and your money.
It shows your priorities.

Tip # 9 - If you're married - stop criticizing your husband.
Criticalness is a heart issue rooted in discontentment – breeds criticalness. Criticism is a form of condemnation with words that are negative. It often has the sense of being let down. When you do feel let down or disappointed, make an appointment with God (first) then see what He tells you to do next. Sometimes, you might hear Him say, "I'll take care of this one for you." Tip # 10

Tip # 10 - Live today as if it were your last. Write a personal purpose statement!
What would your legacy really look like if you died tomorrow? Who do you have unresolved issues with? Who do you need to say, "I'm sorry for hurting you?" to? Who do you need to say, "I love you." to? Who did you steal from that you need to give back to?

I'll be writing some posts on the how to of writing a personal purpose statement.

So, what's one of your tips for life! We need to hear them! What others tackle!

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11 comments:

Mrs. Sidney said...

I need a personal purpose statement!!

Good post!!

Lylah said...

YES!

~Robin said...

wonderful life tips-love 'em!

Deb Burton said...

GREAT tips! I am definitely looking forward to your post on writing a personal purpose statement.

6HappyHearts said...

Hmmm have you been talking to God about me?! ; )
Love the post! I'm printing it & hanging it on the bathroom mirror!

Lylah said...

hey happy hearts...i'm blushing...

bless God. blessings on you!

Mrs. Sidney said...

I have given you something on my blog!!

Mrs. Sidney said...

I have given you something on my blog!!

Org Junkie said...

Such a great list!

I have been having trouble getting into your mentoring page, is it not working?

Lylah said...

Laura Woman ~ my web sites at lifecoachmoms.com and womantowoman.us can only be seen on internet explorer. bummer eh! :-) that could be the prob.

i'm not saavy enough to figure that out...

Lylah said...

Laura Woman ~ my web sites at lifecoachmoms.com and womantowoman.us can only be seen on internet explorer. bummer eh! :-) that could be the prob.

i'm not saavy enough to figure that out...