Being a pastor, my husband, has the fun privilege of marrying couples. Recently, this was the message he gave at a little wedding. It's worthy to read, print and post on your blog or your mirror as a daily reminder of what makes a good marriage.
It's like the color BLUE coming together with the color RED - creating an new and more royal color PURPLE. The BLUE is always the color BLUE and RED is always RED, but, keeping our identity, yet coming together, there is a NEW COLOR THAT'S PRODUCED - a more GLORIOUS color.
Then Michael said:
We may think we're in a place of maturity, but, what happens in the home is the true test of maturity. The husband may think that he is mature in the area of love, but marriage has a way of showing us just how shallow our love may be and how we continually need to grow out of our own selfishness into being more loving. The wife may think she's very respectful, but when her husband acts foolishly, then she discovers how immature she may be in this area of being respectful.
The test is for EVALUATION and PURIFICATION - so that God's glorious character can be worked in us. Marriage is a wonderful way God uses to purify us and to build character in us. SO, BE FAITHFUL IN THE TESTS OF LIFE.
Though it seems to be easier for me to do "my own thing" and for my wife to do "her thing," but though it's more difficult to do things together, it's SO WORTH IT. It's an effort that demands finding a way to blend BOTH of our talents and personalities, but the payoff is great.
To put it more concisely: though there are things that we do alone (and we ought to do some things as individuals - that's good and healthy), yet, keep working on finding things to do together - fun things, social things, productive things.
The life you experience together can be TWICE as rich and productive as the life you experience alone. SO, WORK ON DOING THINGS AS A TEAM...THERE'S A GREATER GLORY THERE!"