Tuesday, August 26, 2008

lylah-isms on marriage

Here's a few more Lylah-isms on marriage.

Assess your idea of marriage.
Before you married your husband, what did you think marriage was all about? Did you have any idea of your role and his? Did you think that all your needs, desires and wants would be met in your man? Is your idea biblical or cultural? Did you know that God says the woman was made for the man and not the man for the woman? It’s true.

Everything about you—your wiring—is made to complement your husband. You were designed to come along side him as a support.

If a marriage is based on cultural ideologies verses biblical ones it will be at risk to fail. The flame will flicker and the foxes will spoil the vineyard blossoms.

Many wives, ignorantly, try to apply cultural philosophies to the Bible and think it will work. It won’t. It can’t. God won’t let it, because marriage is His idea.

Get real here—only if you want to grow and become mature.
1. Get a journal to write in.

2. Make a list of how you know/think you are critical.

3. Then, go to your husband and ask HIM how HE thinks YOU are critical toward HIM.

Really, you might be surprised. When I’ve done this, I’ve felt such shame—good shame that I could repent, change, grow. It’s a good exercise for a wife to do at least once a month.

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Christie said...

"God says the woman was made for the man and not the man for the woman?" So true! And I've found that it is so helpful to my marriage when I will think of my husband and his likes and interests before my own. I love the journal idea... Thanks!

Lylah said...

thanks for christie for stopping by and saying HELLO. i wonder what would happen if women really understood that truth...how different things would be?

love your profile pic! too cute!

Mrs. Sidney said...

I will do this tonight. I will let you know how it goes.

Anonymous said...

Wow, that's a very powerful challenge. I'm going to think on this some more. Thank you for sharing your wisdom in this matter!