Sunday, November 30, 2008

A Woman's Relationship with Her Dad

God intended for DADS to give girls the Building Blocks that help build and grow girls into Godly, mature and confident girls who love God and know all about Him. Dad’s building blocks show girls God’s love and protection by making them feel save on the outside.

Dad’s are supposed to make girls feel safe on the outside & on the inside. God also uses Poppies in a little girl's life - to cause her to know that she's a princess.

A lot of dad’s building blocks are to affirm, teach and protect their daughters. Dad’s actually have a lot of responsibility according to the Bible.

One of the things dad’s are supposed to do (besides protecting their daughters) is to talk a lot about all sorts of life’s issues (according to God’s perspective).

Check out these verses. They are mostly about what God is telling dads to talk to their children about. Where ever it says “son” you just put your name there.

Check out what God says . . .
Deuteronomy 5:29
Deuteronomy 6:4-7
Deuteronomy 6:18
Deuteronomy 11:19—21
Isaiah 38:19b v
Proverbs 22:6 (this is most likely for moms and dads )
Proverbs 4:1
Proverbs 4:26-27
Proverbs 4:18 –19
Proverbs 4:14—15

One thing dads are supposed to do . . .
God wants a dad to tell his daughter that the most important thing is to know God as Father. A daughter also needs to know that asking God for wisdom and understanding is the key to a healthy life. God wants a dad to tell his girl how to be wise and avoid being foolish. God also wants a dad to tell his girl what to do if she feels tempted.

He wants dads to tell their daughters how to stay pure, remind them that the main vein in life is preparing to be a wife and mother and to dream about their wedding day when they will be a beautiful bride.

Dads are supposed to tell their girls how to be a friend and what kind of person NOT to be a friend to. They are supposed to tell their daughters how to speak and not lie and what to avoid. They are supposed to build up the inner image of their daughters by telling them they are beautiful just as they are. They’re not supposed to tell them they are “fat and will never get a man” or “if only” they “looked a certain way” then they’d have boyfriends. Moms train their daughters too and affirm the good things dad teaches.

Proverbs 1: 10—19
Proverbs 2:1—2
Proverbs 2: 5—6
Proverbs 6: 1—2
Proverbs 6: 12—15
Proverbs 6: 6—8
Proverbs 6:20—21

When dad's building blocks are missing . . .
When girls don’t have proper building blocks from dad or mom, they tend to grow up feeling insecure, unprotected, not valued and then they make dumb and stupid choices that only add to a sense of woundedness and insecurity and fearfulness. If dad leaves, the rejection that girl feels and operates out of can last a life time. . . until some dad blocks are given back. If dad is left and wounded his daughter with the pain of rejection often she will stay "stuck emotionally" at the age dad left. What can help heal her? Another dad being used by God to begin to replace those missing building blocks - slowly, one at a time - with great love, acceptance, care and a willingness to stay in it - in spite of the potential of being rejected.

God intended for DADS to give girls the Building Blocks that show them God’s love by protecting them and making them feel safe on the outside and inside.

Bonding blocks of love are needed so girls feel protected, affirmed and empowered for life. Dad gives blocks that “bless” his daughter in being a girl. Dad helps his girl become independent of mom. Dad helps his daughter learn to rightly relate to guys, so she can right relate to her husband when she gets married.

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5 comments:

ValorieJane aka *3~BLonDeS~mOm said...

I Love this teaching. It was definitely one of my aha! moments in life, as I sat across from you, while you played with a stack of wooden blocks, while talking to the girls.
You will appreciate the conversation yesterday from the back seat.."Daddy, Kiersten says...God is the most important in all the world, right?" (Daddy cant hear) and Shannon says.."No WE are the most important, and God takes care of us, right daddy? We are just perfect..."
Well, we decided to stop for lunch, and you can imagine the lunch conversation, from a 5 year old perspective. It was wonderful!!
Thanks...

Lylah said...

awe...thanks so much friend...i do remember that moment and can't help but smile BIG in hearing how the legacy of good fatherhood is being realized in these two princesses...so stink'n sweet...

miss u...

Amy Bennett said...

thank you. i plan to let my husband read this. i will take all the advice about raising daughters as i can!!

Lylah said...

beautiful amy...i have tons more where that come from (experience) :-0)

stichmama said...

Thank you for this. it is such an encouragement to know what roll dad's play. My Jesus has blessed me with a Daddy who gave me some great Builging Blocks.