Wednesday, February 20, 2008

30 Day Sex Challenge

Sex IS on the mind of some good women! Jess is continuing her very good Sex Talk with the next post: Being "Sexy" For Your Husband. Roses to you Jess!

And, get this ~ the AOL Love Coaches are just one more "proof" that sex is THE sizzling topic in bloggy world. Had to post what they've had to say here:

Thou Shalt Have Sex Every Day

When debate turns to the value of marriage, attention normally goes to the religious sanctity of the union, the socio-economic benefits to the married adults and their children and even health pluses. Married couples tend to live longer, healthier lives and are typically less depressed or anxious than their single, divorced, or widowed counterparts.But one Ybor City, Fla, pastor has taken up the mantle of another marriage blessing. In an attempt to curb high divorce rates, Relevant Church head pastor Paul Wirth issued a challenge for his married congregants: Have sex every day for one month.

"Sometimes life gets in the way," Wirth told the Associated Press. "Our jobs get in the way. And that's no different for people who attend church."According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the rate of divorce in the U.S. is 3.6 divorces per 1,000 people; the rate peaked at 5.3 per 1,000 in 1981. Notably, divorce rates are highest in states where many conservative Christians live, including Arkansas and Mississippi, while the percentage dips in the more liberal Northeast and upper Midwest.

What accounts for the overall decline in divorce rates? Many experts attribute it to a combination of the rise in cohabitation, the older age of marriage, and the overall decline in the marriage rate -- a whopping 30 percent since the mid-1980s. Others factors in income and education levels.

Some, like Pastor Wirth, believe lower divorce rates somehow relates to higher sexual activitiy.

One recent online study by clinical sexologist Bob Berkowitz, PhD and his wife Susan Yager-Berkowitz, authors of 'He's Just Not Up for It Anymore,' however, found that the U.S. divorce rate is well below the nation's average of married couples in sexless marriages (couples having sex fewer than 10 times per year). And it said the most frequent reason couples stop regular lovemaking was 'unadventurous sex,' or a loss of enthusiasm or novelty.

Pastor Wirth's invitation does not extend to unmarried congregants.

Mrs. Fussypants gives you the quiz on "How You Know If You've Cut His Testicles Off."

I chime in here with my version of NOT emasculating your man. And my husband adds his two cents here - with what a husband needs most:
You'll have to go here to find out what AFS means.

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vanessa said...

This is it.

annie said...

how funny! i live in the greater tampa area and an article about this church's challenge was featured in the sunday paper last week. i forwarded it on to jess at making home. crazy! i guess all this attention means it's something worthwhile and necessary!

Lylah said...

Hi Vanessa and Annie....Thanks for not being "shy" and commenting on a subject so very imporant to our feminine guys are rad!


Jess said...

And, after Annie forwarded it to me, I saw it being discussed on a homeschooling forum I'm a part of (started by someone else)... I think it's one of those things that catches people off guard and gets people talking.

And Christians ought to be able to talk about this, instead of allowing prudish old ideals to rule the day. Of course, we have to use discretion and we definitely don't need to be broadcasting private things, but in my mind, this is part of what Titus 2 is talking about... teaching younger women how to LOVE their husbands!

Anyway, glad to see others hitting on this same issue and shaking up the "comfortable" issues! :)


Lylah said...

Jess ~ YES!!! It's a Titus 2 subject - that older women must teach/talk about with younger women. I do, unashamedly. And, I'm delighted that you've taken on this (even as an older woman - who is younger in years) You Go Girl!

Anonymous said...

This is a great way to start a nursery! ;)

Lylah said...

Hey my morning laugh out of this one! love u..

mholgate said...

I love this topic. I think too many women are afraid to talk about it. We did a study "Intimate Issues" in our bible study that really addressed a lot of questions that women ask. I have one for you though. I think it's a great challenge to have sex every day for a month, but what about "that time?" What do you do then?

Jess said...

A potential answer for mholgate...

Either the shower or Instead cups (sold at drugstores) can help make that time of the month an accessible time.