tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post645009086630905483..comments2023-09-27T00:59:40.334-07:00Comments on Simple Home Living: resisting to become irresistibleLylah Lednerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04436702227303638509noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-1560633690798507872009-02-02T10:44:00.000-08:002009-02-02T10:44:00.000-08:00I just stumbled upon this article and for the most...I just stumbled upon this article and for the most part, I really agree with it and think this is excellent advice for young women, and 9 out of 10 of the principles I've kept myself. But I would like to share my opinion concerning online dating. I am 27 years old and am newly engaged. I never dated much, just waited on God and lived my life accordingly and was happy. After I graduated from college and moved to a new area, got a job working with 7 married people and joined a church that I loved but was lacking in single members, my sister encouraged me to join eHarmony. At first I was totally against the idea. I viewed it as desperation. I viewed it as taking control from God about how I would meet the right one. Then I came around and I joined. It was a long process. I was a member for three years and got to know countless men. What encouraged me was that most of the men I got to know were decent, Christian men - for the longest time before I joined, I thought men like these were extinct. Also, I got to love how you got to know important details about values and such right upfront. After I joined, whenever I would be set up on dates by friends/family or would actually meet someone on my own, I found that I really disliked not 'knowing' things about these men that I would've learned about them on eHarmony, before ever talking on the phone or meeting. I never initiated contact with men on the site - and in that way I was pursued by men who were interested in me. I believe it's a much better way to meet someone than hanging out at a bar. And let's face it, it's hard to meet new people these days if you're not going to school, or if you work in an environment that doesn't allow much contact with other people. Now to the happy ending part of my story. A year and half in to my online dating experience, I met a man for dinner, had a nice time and thought he was very nice, just not right for me. That's as far as it went and I was fine when we never got together again. Then one morning I received an email from him from out of the blue - a year and a half later - saying that when we had met before he had gotten the impression I wasn't that interested in him. He'd gone on a few dates but had not been in a serious relationship since then, and had mostly been focused on building his relationship with God. For whatever reason, he said that he still thought about me, and just wanted to see if I was still available and if so, would be interested in talking. He knew he was taking a chance, but he was "just trying to let God direct his life as He saw fit." We began getting to know each other again, and after we had our "second first date," I knew he was the one, and I think the timing was just wrong the first time we met and God still had work to do in our lives - but God kept me on this man's mind. Now if that's not God bringing two followers together, I don't know what it. I discovered that online dating does not mean desperation and it doesn't have to be sleazy or dangerous - it could simply mean making yourself available to be found by someone you wouldn't normally meet in your everyday life. After years of meeting nice men who simply were not 'right' for me, I am pleased that God brought me to the one I am to marry, even if it was through a very modern method.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-5522455007232733102008-10-24T06:26:00.000-07:002008-10-24T06:26:00.000-07:00Hi Lylah - thanks for putting into words what has ...Hi Lylah - thanks for putting into words what has been tangled in my mind and on my tongue. Great to see it so simply and clearly communicated. I forwarded it to both Chris and Vonnie.Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03994846953739263248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-64226253983152412252008-08-25T07:09:00.000-07:002008-08-25T07:09:00.000-07:00thanks mrs. "cleaver" -love that! what a great tes...thanks mrs. "cleaver" -love that! what a great testimony!Lylah Lednerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436702227303638509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-74126094208320345592008-08-25T06:05:00.000-07:002008-08-25T06:05:00.000-07:00This is so true and worked for me almost 20 years ...This is so true and worked for me almost 20 years ago. 17 years of marriage later it is fun to think back on some of the good decisions we made. Great post.Texashollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17982077447405220888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-68421465509663711212008-08-24T22:14:00.000-07:002008-08-24T22:14:00.000-07:00These are great ones! Love this!These are great ones! Love this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-35200732425255428572008-08-24T14:00:00.000-07:002008-08-24T14:00:00.000-07:00Linda...you're a love. such good questions.... go ...Linda...you're a love. such good questions.... go here - http://lylahledner.blogspot.com/2007/11/trusting-god-with-your-life-to-be-wife.html<BR/>http://lylahledner.blogspot.com/2007/12/my-thoughts-on-bride-who-is-waiting.html<BR/> and i know i'll HAVE to help answer those questions that EVERY single woman asks.Lylah Lednerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436702227303638509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-67099897859945264392008-08-24T11:56:00.000-07:002008-08-24T11:56:00.000-07:00Great post! I like the way you put all this! I'll...Great post! I like the way you put all this! I'll be sharing it with my big girls~<BR/>Blessings!carrhophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00017807695487933660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-43918721914371776752008-08-24T10:34:00.000-07:002008-08-24T10:34:00.000-07:00Lylah, you have absolutely NO idea how much I need...Lylah, you have absolutely NO idea how much I needed to read your blog about singleness. Your words are great reminders of what God has already told me. I copied it down and will probably post it on my wall. :D Seriously though... how do you deal with the "why are you still single?" question? It only makes a person feel like a failure by not "hooking" a husband in a record amount of time. Or that I'm somehow not fully capable of being used by God as a single woman. Or that God has purposed for His reasons to glorify Himself in my singleness. If my life was created to give glory to God, then why are people saying I've missed the mark? Because for sometime now I've made the choice to be pursued. And if it doesn't happen then God has a purpose in that. Maybe I haven't missed the mark, maybe He never fashioned a helpmate for me. And being content, no joyful, in Christ alone (a daily prayer) is what my life is meant to be. And until God changes something, that is my place.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10269087957470546116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-31045568448241743052008-08-23T22:27:00.000-07:002008-08-23T22:27:00.000-07:00This is great! thank you so much for bringing thes...This is great! thank you so much for bringing these things into the light. I don't ever want to be some guys "temporary filler" again! I like what you said about "learning the art of feminine mystique!" Thanks for all your great posts on singleness.<BR/>~Hannah~Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12240054834631607911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-11113369312805021652008-08-23T21:40:00.000-07:002008-08-23T21:40:00.000-07:00oh my gosh...2 portland friends...thanks bonnie......oh my gosh...2 portland friends...thanks bonnie....you've GOT to meet Melissa! Melissa you've GOT to meet Bonnie...<BR/><BR/>I'm networking again...what's God up to?<BR/><BR/>Bonnie..good for you woman....you are wise and i love u! kiss my girl for me, would ya?Lylah Lednerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436702227303638509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-23234631286873703322008-08-23T21:38:00.000-07:002008-08-23T21:38:00.000-07:00Great words of wisdom. I went on an online dating ...Great words of wisdom. I went on an online dating service for the fun of it with my sister. It was very enlightening and weird! After about two weeks I cancelled it because I could tell in my spirit it was not a healthy thing for me. Bottomline, resist anything that is not from the Lord! Thanks for your dedication.<BR/>BonnieThe Milli Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06074082081955711036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-91030349345910772502008-08-23T21:23:00.000-07:002008-08-23T21:23:00.000-07:00thanks woman!thanks woman!Lylah Lednerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436702227303638509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30532543.post-63588397530553815972008-08-23T21:15:00.000-07:002008-08-23T21:15:00.000-07:00Such great tips! I've shared so many of the same s...Such great tips! I've shared so many of the same sentiments with my own daughters. I'll review this list with my unmarried one! :-)<BR/><BR/>Excellent work!<BR/><BR/>xo<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>MelissaMelissa @ The Inspired Roomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711494549892860307noreply@blogger.com